A Difficult Day


It has been a difficult two days. My mom called me on the way to school yesterday to let me know that my very favorite aunt, the aunt who inspires much of writing and influenced my life had a massive stroke at 2am. She has bleeding on the brain and will not get better. I was crushed and shaken. Fortunately it was an hour before the kids would come in and I was able to get myself together.

My Aunt Dolores was cool. She was funny. She was eccentric. These are some of the things she taught me:

Take care of your skin.

Moisturize every day.

Wear sunscreen, make up and lipstick.

Try not to complain too much, no one really cares.


Bake cookies, and then eat them, and sneak in some cookie dough too.

Don’t feel guilty if you consume an entire container of Ben and Jerry’s Chubby Hubby.

Eat dessert first, or just eat dessert.

Laugh loud.

Let things go.


Stay current.

Do weights as long as you can.

Cherish your husband.

Cherish the good times, they don’t last long as you wish.

Laugh till you cry.


She is a young 85 year old woman. I thought she would live to 100.

It has been a difficult day.